I just dont get it....

[babygirl]

Why is it when your single and your kind of digging someone they dont really seem to notice your or give you the time of day. But when your finally happy with someone and in a good relationship all of a sudden they are like damn I want her. And they go after you hard core.

I mean why is this? Is it they want what they cant have? Or is it that when I they had the chance they knew I was there and that there was no rush for things....and then all of a sudden it was like shit...to late.

Someone please explain this to me.

[Matt76]

Babygirl, I used to have this problem too. Then I lost 55lbs and became a tool/douchebag and things have been going a lot better for me. When I was nice to girls and treated them well they would always act like I didn't exist. Then I started to act more cocky and pretty much tell them they would be lucky to have me and it works 99% of the time.

So basically make them feel like they are the one missing out on a chance of a lifetime

[Dapit26]

jealousy factor. when one realizes he/she cannot have someone, it makes them more attracted. BUT if that offer is easy and on the plate for them, they tend not to take it as serious. Human nature

[babygirl]

You guys both have a point and I have thought of that. I know I can be a bit cocky sometimes but not in a serious manor. More like "You sooo couldnt handle me". And that does seem to make em want me more. But its when I find someone and pretty much stop talking to the other guys then the other guys are all of a sudden almost begging for my attention. And then they promise you eveything under the sun.

Matt- I kind of know what you mean as well. I have been attracted to my share of assholes. I think it was the confidence that attracted me to them. But I am done with men like that. I have found that the sweet guys can be just as confident and at the same time treat you like a princess instead of a piece of meat.